I’m OK -Your OK
Blog Two
So my sister came and went. And I feel so much better. Even though nothing outwardly has changed in my life. (I still have piles of clothes lying on every available surface of my home to sort and clean: in a fit of enthusiasm I had chosen to empty my cupboards in a bid to tidy them two weeks ago! I still am crippled by my inadequacies in cooking, cleaning ironing, keeping accounts….
But you know what-after her visit-I can laugh at it all now:
So what if I’m hopeless at folding clothes, keeping a good home, knowing the meaning of life or any of the things that we women are supposed to –I’m ME. Maddeningly competent in some ways. Excruciatingly backward in others. And I’ve managed with this package of pluses and minuses pretty well so far.
I guess that’s what we women need every now and then. A cup of tea with a friend/ sister/ mentor. Someone who can tell us that IT’S OK. That we don’t have to beat ourselves up for not being as perfect as we want the world to think we are. OK to be not bouncing around and motivated each and every day of our lives. OK not to want to save the world every day.
As long as we can save ourselves. From our inner demons and doubts. From the world out there which is so eager to sell us images of ourselves. From the impossible goals we set ourselves.
I’m going to be fifty one in two days. And I don’t think I’ve loved myself more ever. Or accepted myself in such a profound way.
Getting older does that to you. It’s been the best thing that’s happened to me. I meet so many young women beset with the problems I used to grapple with when I was their age. Problems real and imagined.
And even when I’m giving them strength and a shoulder to lean on- I know that whatever I do or say- time is going to sort them out. So that by the time they reach my age they’re going to be even stronger and more accepting of themselves than I am.
Even of the self who wants to brood and wallow like I was today.
Before my sister came over. And I realized that passing clouds only add to the beauty of the sky.
Hope you too have a friend or a sister or a mentor to share the cloudy days with!
Cheers!
PS: My ex ma in law has just called to say that my mom dropped a plate of samosas and dahi wadas off at her place, on her way home from work. My ex ma in law is 90, my mom is 83. A thoughtful tea-time snack makes such a difference between friends!
March 14th, 2009 at 1:07 pm
Hi Malviika Jee,
How much you are fit dear.I am amazed to see 50 years of age is so sweet smart and energetic.How you have maintained all this.
Cheers!
March 16th, 2009 at 5:35 am
You write so well! I can immediately connect with you.
Many Thnx,
K
March 18th, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Dear Malavika
I am seeking intellectual people like you who can take the responsibility to run nation for the betterment of country, improving systems and to lead world in coming days with dedication and sincerity.
Would you be interested? For more information login at http://www.tnirp.org
Let’s make our government work professionally and dedicatedly. Let us take the responsibility now to monitor our India ourselves. This is our country and it is our responsibility to organize everything in a systematic and proper manner for efficient & professional output.
You are yourself an influence for the society. Best way to save the society from virus is to kill the virus itself as early as
possible, not by medicating every individual.
a. Why can’t we make government work like a professional company where each and every minor issues are taken care of at priority in every department.
b. Where increments and promotions are performance and target based.
c. Where best ideas coordinating in saving, security or profits are very well received and implemented on priority basis.
Let’s not just talk but do work and let others talk about us.
“One way to take care of the future is to work on it now!”
Every time I ask anybody about current ongoing political scenario then everybody says that a day will come when somebody will change it but then I ask from them that why that somebody can’t be you? Why?
Their silence always tells the answer to the question asked.
1. Where from I will earn for me and my family?
2. What about security of my family?
3. What about my job security?
4. What about my responsibilities & priorities for my family?
Because no intellectual, educated, technical or intelligent person steps forward for the initiative, that’s why our India is governed by corrupted and criminal background kind of people. We ourselves help them to grow and govern.
Shouldn’t we feel guilty for it? Is it not our own fault? Are we not responsible for what’s happening currently? Yes, I am responsible for my country’s condition today. I have no right to blame people who are in politics now because I myself gave them to opportunity to lead me. I myself voted them. I am the only person responsible for it.
Shame on me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Only thing which I require from you is dedication, devotion, sincerity, zeal to excel and perform for the betterment of county. In nutshell, perfectionist professionals.
Are you the one? Are you concerned? Are you ready?
Regards
Rahul Bhartiya